Relationships&Happiness (Blog Five)

Cultivating vs Finding

        Personally cultivating a relationship is better then finding one. When you cultivate a relationship it shows you the good and the bad habits the other person has. How happy you are or how bad the relationship can get. You as an individual decide if this is something you can accept to even stay with him/her, to stay in their life on you daily bases. Cultivating can the two of you closer by sharing the same interest, foods, qualities and making the bond stronger. For example my friend Raja thought she had found the “ideal person” but a few months later she found out that the only thing that was keeping her around was the sex life. With time people build a bond that they are content to and make the effort to keep it like that, instead of finding what they thought was the right one and finding out later it isn't what seemed.

Gratitude

         A lot of people don't realize that someone can be here one day leave the next. Gratitude is something a lot of people take for granted but it can be so simple to do. Not everyone has the decency to say Thank You, but writing a letter can be a way to thank that person. You are willing to make an extra step for them to realize that you are thankful. What if one day you ask yourself  “Did I ever thank that person for everything they did for me?” you would want your answer to be yes because you never know if that person will be there tomorrow. 

Spending More Time with Loved Ones
       Your family, friends, boyfriend/girlfriend or anyone who gives you an opportunity to learn about them on a deeper detailed level. It helps you learn to care about someone and having it reciprocated. The person I spend most of my time was with my best friend Flory. We meet at two years old. We were inseparable. Flory was the total opposite of me, if I said I wanted to go to Wendy’s she wanted to go to Olive Garden, we learned to compromise with each other and come out with something like Mcdonalds. Spending time with Flory wasn't always easy because she had different taste in everything but this is what made our bond stronger, she learned something from my side as well as I did. The more I spend time with her the more we became closer. We have 17 years knowing each other. Our lives will continue growing and learning more about each other’s bad habits.